I want to start off this post clarifying that I originally wrote the title as Blook Boggers.
Just so we’re upfront about what kind of person you’re talking to here today. 😌 Clearly we’re all in for a TREAT of cohesive thinking from a veteran blogger. Because, why yes, I have been at this blogging thing for 8 years. Yes. Eight years. I’ve been here so long that I’ve watched blogging culture change, seen people come and go, watched the rise and fall of trends and habits and empires and kings. I am now this old gnarled tree in the background, ancient.
(Not dramatic though, clearly.)
But I have to admit, I’ve picked up on some bad habits as a book blogger.
They’re not necessarily bad for “everyone” but they are for meeeee. I don’t even know if I will/can fix these, but I’m going ahead and gently roast myself.
I get why people say this, hence I’ve said it myself. Sometimes you see That Book everywhere and maybe the writing is bleh, the premise is cliche, or you just know way better books exist. And you’re just there like, “WHY 🗣IS THIS 🗣SO FAMOUS.”
But I feel like calling things “overhyped” is rooted in this idea that something can’t be good if “everyone” likes it, therefore you’re not an individual anymore. I get it, we crave individuality and excellence and curating things that we love. (Good books! Favourite music! Films we can’t stop talking about!) But at the end of the day — it’s just subjectivity. You hate it. I like it. Or you like it. I hate it. So what? If a book makes a few million people happy, then isn’t that actually nice for them?
I want to just move along and find a book I would die for and hype that up myself. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Disclaimer that this does not apply to me + The Raven Cycle = aka my true love of ever, who I will never shut up about. The reason I am on this green imploding planet is to tell everyone to read it!!!
However, I just feel like every time someone is all, “What’s a good sci-fi book?” My brain is like: we have never read any other scifi but Illuminae because that’s super famous and you remember it.
Me. Always. 🙄 Put me on the spot and I only ever remember big titles. And I love those titles, don’t get me wrong. But I want to recommend little titles too!??!?
Now to be clear: THIS IS JUST ME. I think negative reviews should exist and I think some bloggers write the most hilarious salty reviews that I will snicker quietly to myself about. But for ME, personally, I found that my snarky reviews got like 50 x the traffic and interaction and I could be way too acidic because I knew it made people laugh.
And the internet world is just so???? Built on negativity???? Sometimes I get tired of adding to that. And as a community, often I see way more lists like “all the books you can’t stand!” or “all the authors who annoy you!” and I’m just 💀 I tripped and fell into a Hufflepuff and now I feel life is too short not to be kind.
* None of this is referring to calling out problematic books by the way!
“Ohhhh,” you say knowingly, “this is why you barely blog now.”
Alright listen up, U LITTLE SQUID. 🗣 YOU ARE…okay fine, yes you’re right. 😂 Instead of forcing myself to blog and panicking about posts, I’ve been letting myself blog when I can. Instead of when I should. All these “shoulds” are really draining. The only “should” I want in my life is, “I should stop feeling guilty for wanting that book on cover love alone because IT’S BEAUTIFUL OKAY. LET ME LIVE AND LOVE.”
Obviously when you’re doing social media and have an internet presence, online consistency IS key. You can’t just post whenever you want and expect the same results as someone on a dedicated schedule, working super hard at it every day, etc. etc. But since no one is paying me here and I’m supposed to write a book now and then…I want to not be a frantic blogging workaholic for no reason. 🤗
Oh this is a bad habit, alright. It is. Because pre-blogging, I never would’ve said I had a reading slump. I feel like it’s a thing we bloggers suffer from because (1) we’re overloaded with reading commitments, (2) lots of the time we have to read THIS and THIS before THIS date, and that’s slightly exhausting?!, and (3) we are genuinely trying to do too much.
Also…I admit that being told to do something lowers my interest in doing it by 187%.
I have teens ask me how I read 200 books because highschool is eating them alive and I’m like: in highschool I maybe read 40 books a year?? Or LESS. And then some people have full-time jobs or raise kids! They might read a lot (I admire them!) or not a lot (I think that’s so reasonable!). We seem to have all this guilt and expectations on us. Some of those are self-inflicted, but some are just the whole culture of blogging being about ‘owing’ everyone reviews and our time. I see bloggers “calling out” other bloggers for not hyping up a certain title. And I’m just: what if we haven’t had time to read all these titles yet?! I’m looking at the Goodreads Choice Awards, blinking rapidly, and realising I’ve read less than half of the nominations.
I’m beginning to wish it wasn’t like this!!
I don’t want to have reading slumps, brought on by exhaustion from cram reading or guilt reading. I want to just 🤗 read and enjoy things when I can.
(I say this, but I’m still trying to figure out to read a lot but not stress. HA. I want to read all the things and not disappoint authors or publishers…I just don’t like all this pressure as well, especially when it’s not paid. This is still a hobby! Much as I dearly love it!)
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