You know that moment you put an opinion on the internet and someone shouts “YOU’RE WRONG!!”
And that someone is…you?
Okay okay 😂 so let’s talk about changing opinions. Because as bloggers — no, as humans — we very rarely stay static in our opinions and feelings. We grow. (Some of us even grow taller but obviously that is not me.) We change. Sometimes we soften up on an old opinion or else we get toothily hard over it instead. We change opinions after learning more, or seeing it from another perspective, or maybe it’s just a silly inconsequential change like I loved peanut butter once and now I don’t!!! (Actually. I still love it but I’m sort of allergic and it peeves me daily.)
The awkward part about being online is telling everyone your steadfast opinions and then…you…erm…change. 😂But hey! Nothing like a self-roast with a bit of salt.
So today I am writing a post to delightfully disagree with…mYSELF.
“Happy endings are overrated! Break my heart! Make me feel things!”
I can’t even begin to stress how very very very wretchedly soft-hearted I’ve become. I recall writing a post somewhere and demanding death in series finales. And now? Aw just let them all live. It’s okay. Let everyone live. 🥺Let them all have jam and warm toast at the end of the novel and nothing bAD HAPPENS EVER AGAIN.
Alright, I still want realism…and if it’s an epic fantasy series where everyone gets out without a scratch, it’s a bit eye-roll-worthy. But I’m jUST SAYING. I much prefer happy endings now. Make me suffer for 300 pages, but for the last 10 pages — make everything go right. Pls. So much pls.
“I’m so tired of all these romances in YA books…”
Oh 😂 how did this happen. I became a slight romantic. Okay, I am still fussy! I don’t always ship couples. Sometimes YA is over here featuring these veritable babies and I’m just the 90yo ancient saying “no. ur too young for love” and I mentally black out over YA plots about marriage. But I get really sappy for so quite a few romances now. I used to feel bored of them all, but now I’ll be reading a slowburn romance and it’s been 3 books and thEY JUST HELD HANDS AND I’M 😍😭😍😭😍😭.
Who am I!!!!!
“Why would you buy a book twice ugh.”
This is adorable, because part of me is still sighing at myself and my 4 editions of City of Bones. But the rest of me is just shouting, “Let me live!!” Collecting multiple editions is still something I only get to do cautiously, and mostly happens when I’m gifted them. But I just absolutely love it? I get why people buy books they’ll technically never read. I mean (a) for bookstagram haha, but (b) it’s just a way of feeling close to a book you adore while supporting the author and appreciating the aesthetic beauty of a cover to remind you how that story made your heart overflow with fierce emotions. SO I GET IT.
(But truly…I am lucky to be gifted editions a lot for promo/work because I couldn’t afford and justify it otherwise ha.)
“I don’t need a crown for book photos.”
Like, I do. And I did. And I got one. And it’s the best purchase I ever made apart from the time when I was about nine years old and bought Turkish Delight even though everyone said I’d hate it but I loved it ha. Or did I love it out of spite? Now we’re getting off track. (But fyi I am Edmund Pevensie.)
“I hate love triangles.”
This needs massive clarification! Because usually I hate love-triangles. Maybe I can even say the word *mostly*. But can we talk about love triangles built on three friends being obsessed with each other? Or love triangles where they all end up together. Or just awkward lowkey triangles in quiet YA contemporaries. Or cleverly done triangles that aren’t built on emotional manipulation but rather escalate the stakes and layer articulate intrigue. Because those I have discovered I really really like.
“I don’t like adult lit.”
See all these blanket-statements from a younger and more foolish me? SO adorable. Least to say, this opinion changed because (1) I got old lol, but also (2) I think I never tried the kind of adult lit that suited me before. Now I’m obsessed with books like Ninth House, The Lies of Locke Lamora, Jade City, Gideon the Ninth, Red White & Royal Blue…I have discovered some downright delights. I still prefer accessible adult lit, ones that read more like YA. But I’ve discovered adult lit that is darker and more muddy with grey characters. I crave that. 😍 (I still avoid SO many adult books though. Most don’t catch my eye at all or are dryly told. But now I at least give more a chance and keep being pleasantly surprised!!)
“I wish this author would write faster!”
I think this is product of me being an author now — but I realise how much work goes into a book, how long the publishing process is, how it is full of sleepless nights and stress and anxiety. It’s rewarding YES. But I also now understand when authors push back release dates, even if it’s a book I’m dying for. I hope you get a nap, authors. 😂 Please take your time.
“I’ll never get my TBR under control–“
Oh. Oh wait no. This opinion hasn’t changed. It is 100% true and I just glanced to the left and saw my bedside TBR of like 30 books and wondered if it was leaning more threateningly closer to me than usual. #RIPPaperFury
have you ever changed your mind about any old bookish opinions?? let me know in the comments!!