For the last 10 months, I’ve been fraternising with two worlds: authors life vs the book blogger life.
And let me tell you WOW it is like trying to drink a cup of tea with the cup. Or the tea. Like I love both worlds, but they do clash a lot? Authors and bloggers are frequently told to stay out of each other’s spaces. Which is fair! But also…which space do I belong now?
I find myself commenting on a book blogging issue and then backspacing quickly with the, “omg they might think I’m rude for chiming in since I’m an author too??” And then oh w o w try catching me talking to another author.
It goes basically like this:
Author: Hi! thanks for supporting my book!!
Me: *STARS SHINE OUT OF MY EYES*
Author: I can’t wait to read your book too!
Me: *EXITS STAGE LEFT WITH HAIR ON FIRE*
I think I’ve got impostor syndrome bad. 😂 But I generally feel like a excitedly shimmying fan of books not…someone…who also writes…books. I want to be?! But my books are small and I am small (truly; 5’1) and no ones has given me cupcakes with my book cover printed on them so clearly I’m still not a real author yet. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I don’t make the rules this is true.
But since I belong to both worlds, I figure it’s time to talk about…
the best vs worst parts of being a blogger and an author
I actually don’t know many authors who do both! At first I was like “omg maybe it’s taboo??? we can’t frolic about in both territories” but also I suspect that authors have no time for it all! But basically I wanted to talk about it because it’s good to be transparent sometimes and you’re all so with me on my author-journey so. 🤗 Here we go.
➸ Uhhh…seeing negative reviews.
I mean OBVIOUSLY. Reviews are for readers, noooot the authors. Awk. But I feel like it’s easy to stumble across negative reviews for my books while I’m still super active on Goodreads and blogs?! Authors always sagely drink their wormwood tea and nod to each other and say, “DELETE GOODREADS.” But then…I’m obligated to review ARCs I’ve requested so, uh, I need to be on there? Also the world would be bereft without me making Six of Crows memes, come on. (Also having people I’m friends with on Goodreads say my book is trash is …😭😂 Yeah I’m gonna go now. It’s so awkward…)
➸ Finding time?!?
I HAVE NO TIME. I haven’t blogged in so long because I have !!! no time !!! I’ve barely read this month and it’s freaking me out. But at the end of the day = do I conquer my TBR? Or do I write my own book? I don’t want to choose. I want it…all.
➸ Being treated as *just* a blogger.
Like I’ve had other authors be super friendly with me, while I sat there like an adorable puppy thinking, “Omg! I’ve made it! Fellow authors want me as a friend!” But then as soon as I promote their book once — boom they’re gone. So I was just a blogger to them. Staaaab me in the heart, why don’t you.
➸ Cringing at the awful things that happen between bloggers and authors.
SO much fault on both sides. From bloggers trash talking authors (I legit saw a thread of bloggers “rating” authors on how friendly/bubbly they were in person; and if they weren’t, then they were being tossed as “bad authors”😳Lots of us are socially awkward introverts, hi.) and selling ARCs and tagging authors in negative reviews. To authors harassing reviewers for their opinions or stalking them (LITERALLY STALKING THEM) or dragging reviewers in subtweets or acting like every reviewer is out to snatch free books and be snarky.
Like, I am on both sides. Why are we all such a mess. I want stand with my blogger friends (we are under-appreciated!) and also side with my author friends (we seriously have a hard job!). GAH.
➸ I don’t want to write reviews anymore!
Like I do want to review books I LOVE. But I feel “meh” about a lot of books and I don’t want to do negative reviews anymore. It’s subjective! Life is subjective!! It’s too hard !! to review !! when I feel fragile about my own books!!
➸ I have the bessssst book community friends!
Ok I’m LUCKY here. I am so immensely comforted, supported, encouraged, and just loved on by the book community (!!!) and it’s frikkin’ amazing. I will never get over this.😍And a lot of bloggers have just been with me from the days when I scrawled scrappy NaNoWriMo novels and over-used gifs, and they’ve watched me fight for these book deal and gone all mother-hen over me and I love you all so much.😘Seriously. This keeps me going.
➸ It’s really boring to read and not discuss, okay!!
I kind of can’t imagine reading a book, nodding to myself, and then sliding it back on the shelf??? No no. I need to take photos of it. I need to write my feels. I need message several friends about what-did-you-think-of-that-plot-twist. I need to add it to lists of books for Top Ten Tuesday posts. I LOVE sharing about books and that hasn’t changed!
➸ I can get the gossip from both sides ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Here to be honest today. 😌But when drama arises, I can generally get the info about it from both sides: what the authors thought vs what the bloggers thought. Not that I chase dramas? Usually they make me annoyed or angry. But sometimes it’s interesting to view from afar. Like I can be one of those dashing people at a famous 19th century opera, using a binoculars to peer at the stage while drinking
chocolate milk champagne and wearing spotless white gloves up to my elbows. #mood
➸ Also just being in the book community has taught me so much.
About problematic tropes. About what types of books are missing vs overdone. About just learning from the kind labours of love that marginalised people give out by educating the rest of us. About writing critical reviews and how I can improve my own work because of that. ABOUT HOW TO MARKET!?? All my online success for my books, I directly attribute to blogging and learning how to market and promote books!
➸ People talk to me about my books and I just love that.
You want to flail with me in my mentions about my books? Tell me your headcanons? Yell about my soft bois and their sadness? Tell me the parts you laughed at?
DUUUUUUUUDE. My life span increases by 1000%.😍I don’t even care if it’s not proper author-reader behaviour. It just makes me thrive. Yes yes thank you. And I think, perhaps, because I am a blogger and people already know me — it’s not hard to crash into my DMs yelling about how I ended The Boy Who Steals Houses or what should happen in a sequel. Love love love.
do you blog *and* write books? if you’re not published yet, do you want to continue doing both when you are published? do you think bloggers and authors should stay out of each other’s spaces? 🤔