I love the book blogging community. I DO. Mostly everyone I faceplant in front of is extraordinarily nice and funny and creative and kind. But — well — there are dark spiderwebby corners. And sometimes it’s hard to be a book blogger. Things get negative. Pressure builds. There are hate comments. Life gets busy. STRESS HAPPENS AND AGH. Book blogging can be quite tough. Lately I’ve noticed a lot of bloggers cutting back and taking hiatuses and feeling dejected about the internet getting snarly at them. ME TOO, HUMANS, ME TOO.
So I thought (as I occasionally deign to do) it would be monstrously handy have a list on ways to be kind to book bloggers. Not just old tired veterans! ANY book blogger! New or small or big. JUST BE KIND, IT’S FABULOUS, I PROMISE.
Make sure you mean it though! Because empty compliments make real compliments less valuable. But if you visit a new blog with a super cute design — SAY IT! If a blogger makes you laugh — TELL THEM! If a post made you think — SAY SO!
You know what absolutely makes my day?! When someone randomly tweets me that they love my blog. HUMANS, DON’T UNDERESTIMATE HOW GOOD THIS MAKES A BLOGGER FEEL.
I SUCK AT THIS. I’m trying to get better though!
There are just so many creative bloggers who write interesting and thoughtful posts and I love them all so much! Sometimes I remember to bookmark them to share on my weekend recaps. But I can also tweet them! Or pin them! Or share a link on Facebook! If you love a post a lot — tell other people. It drives traffic to their blog and it just basically makes them feel like melons of glitter and happiness. This is definitely a fact.
I’m not saying don’t disagree! Disagree all you like! That’s discussion isn’t it?! I’ve had fabulous discussions about differing opinions on my blog and it’s great…provided both parties are respecting each other’s opinions.
But you know what? Life is also short. Sometimes it’s not worth disagreeing or launching into long arguments. Sometimes it really doesn’t matter if the dress should be blue or pink, okay? Because blue AND pink are awesome.
Sometimes I’ve read posts and gone “Oh my gosh, could they be more horrifically WRONG?!?!” and raged for 2.1. seconds (because hey I have a goldfish memory and after 2.1 seconds I’m onto something new). Sometimes I comment — NICELY — and give my perspective. If it’s a book I hated, I like to say things like “I’m glad you enjoyed it! I struggled because…etc.” Because why get angry that someone liked a book?!
Sometimes it’s easy to forget that there is a person behind the blog and that mean words are still sharp and pointy no matter what.
Oh if only we had 294802 more hours in our days, right?! Then we could do all the blog-reading and commenting we wanted. BUT WE DON’T. So agony. Sometimes I can’t fit in everything I want to do — but I can hit that little “like” button or “favourite” and it takes me no time at all.
I’m not sure if this is the “right” thing to do, per se, because I never anyone else mentioning it…but I think it’s a nice thing to do! I’m a prolific liker. I know Facebook sucks and likes to hide people’s updates if they don’t get likes. So I like them! I know it’s monstrously fun to wake up and see your tweet has 89083 favourites (I mean, it’s yet to happen to me — BUT PROBABLY TOMORROW?!) so I favourite things! Same with instagram. And goodreads! I support my friends and fellow blogglings by showing them I’m listening even if I can’t stop to talk.
Okay, but I’m not saying “like” things you don’t like. Ha. Duh, no. But liking/favouriting IS a way of supporting your book blogging buddies. And it makes us feel squishily happy. Just sayin’.
I confess, this doesn’t even come easy to me. IT DOES NOT. I don’t even know how to be kind until I see someone else doing A Nice Thing and I’m like, “Oh gosh, I could do that too!!”
WAYS HUMANS OF BOOK BLOGS HAVE BEEN NICE TO ME:
- Spontaneously tweeting me to say nice things.
- Randomly sending me a book.
Randomly sending me a pet dragon.
- Any time someone comments on my blog I consider it a HUGELY nice thing.
- Adding me to their blogroll.
- Recommending my blog.
- Sharing my post on their weekend recap.
- Telling me they’re reading a book because I recommended it!
- Attacking me with emails of happiness.
- Telling me they liked my post/I made them laugh/they definitely want to be my loyal slave minion for ever and ever because I’m just that wonderful.
It’s my goal to do more of these things for other book bloggers and friends!
But don’t exhaust yourself, okay?! Don’t spend so much time “giving” that it becomes a drain. DON’T FEEL PRESSURED!! I can’t afford to spontaneously buy people books…but I can make a friend one of my bookish necklaces for their birthday. I don’t always remember to share, but I can like statuses. I don’t always have time to reply to all my comments AND visit blogs, but I can do what I can and make my comments thoughtful and excited.
Also, I’ve noticed, that sharing and supporting and encouraging others usually has it boomeranging* back to you.
* Boomerang, karma, reap what you sow — ALL THE WAYS TO SAY IT. I like to say boomerang because it’s actually legitimately fun to say. And if you haven’t said it in your life, please, just stop and SAY it. You’ll thank me later.