Sometimes I do the unthinkable and I unfollow blogs.
Yes, cue shock. It can be a little callous, can’t it? And I personally know it’s devastating when one is on the cusp of a fabulous number and — BOOM — devastation hits when someone unfollows. And is it just me or do the unfollows happen when you’re on like a 99 number and you get that one more and are safely on the 100 and then DAMAGE. Back to 99. It’s heartbreaking, to be honest.
Now I don’t mindlessly follow blogs, but I do have weird blog-following habits. Actually everything I do regarding book blogging is sort of unconventional. I DON’T KNOW WHY. No one shared the rule book with me when I started??
IN BRIEF, MY BLOG READING HABITS:
- Firstly, I read my email-followed blogs. There are only about 6 of them. They’re for the BEST OF THE BEST.
- Secondly, I reply to comments on my blog and visit back those blogs. (Sometimes I don’t get to all of them, unfortunately, but I do my best! So that if you leave a comment for me, I will do vice-versa, and, peoples? I’m 70% sure this is the reason I get so many comments. The other 30% is because I’m just so downright fabulous, of course.)
- Thirdly, and this happens maybe once a week, I trawl the 200+ blogs in my Bloglovin‘ feed. (I totally don’t mean this to happen so irregularly! But after I’ve visited 40+ blogs via my comments…I don’t feel like attempting my bloglovin’ feed. I WANT TO READ ALL THE BLOGS. But I also need to, you know, exist. So I actually frequent some of my favourite blogs less than I’d like, which is sad. But what’s one to do?)
Because I get onto bloglovin‘ so irregularly, I decided it was time for a clean out. HENCE THIS POST! While I unfollowed a few blogs and tidied them into folders (yes, you peoples are all organised) I decided a post was needed on the WHYS and WHENS that lead me to unfollow.
Unfollowing inactive blogs is iffy territory because…WHAT IF THEY COME BACK? So if I love a blog/blogger, I’m definitely not unfollowing, not even if vicious hedgehogs were threatening my life. But. If I haven’t read the blog for, like, 3 months and didn’t even NOTICE I hadn’t...I unfollow.
This one is purely personal (and subjective) but I know for a fact that not everyone’s personalities are going to mesh together. IT’S JUST LIFE. And it’s also okay! I’ve followed several blogs and, after a few months, gee — I just don’t really mesh with the blogger. I haven’t made a connection. Our comments are still uber formal and polite. There’s just no spark. OUR LOVE IS NOT GOING TO BLOSSOM.
HAHA I’M JUST KIDDING. I leave these blogs with absolutely no hard feelings!
That moment when I always skip over the blog? WELL WHY AM I FOLLOWING? For me this can be because the posts are all too similar (too many memes?) or the discussions are waaaay out of my tiny braincell’s league.
This also happens when there’s no connection between me and the blogger. Maybe I’m a deluded pizza crust, but a lot of the reason I like a blog is because of the blogger. Delicious graphics or glorious photos or all the hot-new-book-reviews don’t lure me in like a passionate or friendly blogger.
Back when I was a little baby book blogger and had around 200 followers, I decided to launch myself into the Big Blogging World. I basically decided to take ALL THE ADVICE, comment on ALL THE BLOGS, and be EVERYWHERE AT ONCE. (I have big goals.) I haunted theblogs I admired. The big blogs. The ones that had amazing designs, unique content, always read the latest books, and wrote thought-provoking discussions. Basically 90% of them ignored me.
Okay! So I was a little offended! Maybe a lot…I don’t know. I suspect I’ll get over it one day. Now, having a large blog myself, I realise that it’s unfortunately and shamefully easy to overlook people. But still. If I comment for over a month and receive exactly ZERO interaction from the blogger — bye-bye. I would rather talk to people who are excited I’m talking to them, you know?! We can be mutually excited by each other’s company!
This hasn’t happened to me very often, for which I’m eternally grateful! BUT. It’s not fun when a blog falls down an abyss of…unpleasantness. It can be because the blogger is being continuously negative (you know how draining that is to read?) or if the content has wildly changed from the reason I followed. I once followed this super epic Facebook page where they posted info on upcoming YA movies and books and it was glorious. And then it went strange and started posting selfies and weird quotes and just NONE OF THE STUFF I FOLLOWED IT FOR. Oh oh! But, let me clarify, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t change your blog content. (I’m an advocate of blogging firstly for yourself, secondly for your audience.) Just, maybe, if you’re going to do something “wildly” different you should warn people?
I don’t like reading blogs where the blogger constantly apologies or deletes their art or says how HORRIBLE and TERRIBLE they are at blogging. Please. Stop. I feel like it’s a cry for affirmation?! It comes across needy and is draining to read. If you have followers, just accept that people like you! THEY DO. And be yourself and blog how you want. Super easy. We all go through mid-blog-crisies and if you need to rant or wail or admit you’re struggling: DO IT. I have in the past! But just not 100% of the time, yes?
I don’t often feel driven to unfollow blogs, which is super awesome. And I feel like this post could use a positive counterpart, am I right?! Next week I’ll do a post on why I WILL follow a blog.